Waiting for What, Exactly?
It is important to always remember that those you love may very well belong to others as much as to you. And if you cannot get used to their other obligations, you're sunk.
Hey, man, it's nothing but a good thing if your loved one is a useful and needed soul, even if that means others often take up their time seeking help, advice or company. I suppose it can be a challenge to maintain a close relationship with a popular and well-loved person, but *really*.
If you have self-esteem issues, this relationship absolutely requires you to get over them.
Here's an idea: Try to direct your unspent energies towards activities you find fulfilling for *yourself*. I'd advise you spend some time working against begrudging the time someone spends with others. In my opinion? Your best bet is to have a life of your own.
Seems like advice too obvious to need stated but why don't you fill the hours you could spend 'waiting' with activities that interest you, make you feel wanted and challenge your intelligence? There are many many many successful relationships wherein each person goes his or her own way most of the time.
And if you are "waiting" for me, quite frankly you may be waiting a long damn time. And to what end gain for me? I come back and there you are standing exactly where I left you with nothing new to show me and no new means to hold my attention this time, either.
Bah.
Hey, man, it's nothing but a good thing if your loved one is a useful and needed soul, even if that means others often take up their time seeking help, advice or company. I suppose it can be a challenge to maintain a close relationship with a popular and well-loved person, but *really*.
If you have self-esteem issues, this relationship absolutely requires you to get over them.
Here's an idea: Try to direct your unspent energies towards activities you find fulfilling for *yourself*. I'd advise you spend some time working against begrudging the time someone spends with others. In my opinion? Your best bet is to have a life of your own.
Seems like advice too obvious to need stated but why don't you fill the hours you could spend 'waiting' with activities that interest you, make you feel wanted and challenge your intelligence? There are many many many successful relationships wherein each person goes his or her own way most of the time.
And if you are "waiting" for me, quite frankly you may be waiting a long damn time. And to what end gain for me? I come back and there you are standing exactly where I left you with nothing new to show me and no new means to hold my attention this time, either.
Bah.
posted by Ladarna Daorsa at 2/27/2005
3 Comments:
*laughs*
Damn straight.
I suppose it depends on the manner of waiting. Waiting teaches us patience and humility, being alone helps us to be comfortable with ourselves & silence.
Yes, I agree with you. And if for whatever reason you *choose* to 'wait' then of course it should be a conscious act of something, some sort of growth or even just *rest*, I'd be fine with that.
My problem (and annoyance) was with that sort of unconscious, twiddling thumbs, 'don't know what else to do with myself/*can't* do anything else with myself' sort of waiting. I suppose a lesson is learned, *eventually*, even there and even if only subconsciously.
But, yes, I do not deny that waiting offers *tremendous* opportunity for growth but I suppose that is only if it is a chosen thing and not a default state due to lack of direction.
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