Advise Me
And I will trust synchronicity to make anonymous advice on an unstated dilemma applicable.
posted by Ladarna Daorsa at 2/24/2005
Thursday, February 24, 2005
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"I am the seasoned traveler
Of the Labyrinth.
The genius of alacrity,
Wizard of the impossible.
My brilliance is yet unmatched
In its originality.
My heart's filled with potent magic
That could cast a hundred spells.
I am put together
For mine own pleasure.
I am the Monkey."
Seems pretty apt.
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"My friend, every sorceress is a pragmatist at heart; nobody sees essence who can't face limitation.
If I wanted only to hold you
I could hold you prisoner."
-- Circe's Power, Louise Gluck
"My story is not a pleasant one; it is neither sweet nor harmonious, as invented stories are; it has the taste of nonsense and chaos, of madness and dreams -- like the lives of all men who stop deceiving themselves." -- Demian, Hermann Hesse
"The Muses are vindictive deities: they avenge themselves without mercy on those who weary of their charms." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson
THE RULES: As a general rule, and most of you already know this, I prefer annonymous comments on this blog. Here is where I like to talk more "idea to idea" than person to person. I've got another journal wherein I get all personally chatty, but here I like the idea of ideas being separate from the contructs/biases/"personalities" behind them. Because those things color us all, don't they? Anyway, it's not a hard and fast rule, so feel free to comment however you like. Caro can never help giving herself away and, of course, Aspyre is always welcome to comment with identity because when Ladarna and Aspyre talk, it has always been idea to idea anyway. :)
Previous Posts
- Overview
- Tried, Failed and Moved to a Place More in Kindred
- Holding Hands with the Queen of Swords
- < rant type=tired of self-pity >
- ::laughing::
- Intimately they share
- Harmony
- ::rubbing temples::
- The seeker looks through his bars, not the open wall.
- Excerpt from The Prophet
10 Comments:
ooohhhhh. My first thought?
Fundamental change is imminent.
I feel like some sort of a sweeping change is in store for you in the realm of relationships. It could come in the form of physical move, a paradigm shift or a change in your constellation of friends and associates.
I suppose that's not necessarily bad, it *is* spring after all and this season is opportune for new growth. Although, if you ask me (which you did!) the potential is also there to have a glorious flop as well! :)
*checks lucky feelings*
My advice? It is now safe and there is no need to resist this change. Together, you and whoever will both learn a lot, and you will learn it quickly. And it's going to benefit your relationship for a long time to come.
Let me know how it turns out!
Caro
Funny, my first feeling was change also. Or, more accurately, the *opportunity* for change -- some sort of decisive moment coming up, and not the inevitable change already predicted.
My advice? When the moment hits, act from a place of dynamic action, *not* introspection. Use your strength of will to make a decision. DON'T EQUIVOCATE.
My advice is to help a loved one be patient. Be very very careful, listen closely and make no false moves.
If there are *those* types of issues going on, then remember that the level of tension and defensiveness in the situation can make it easy for someone to be misunderstood, no matter how skillful either of you may be at communicating.
Situations like that can so easily degenerate into outright hostility without much provocation. Especially with you. :)
So: Don't demand agreement from others for awhile. Take a neutral position and try to just listen. What you will pick up between the lines may be more crucial for the future of your relationship than anything you thought you needed to say.
that's some wordy advice. mine is to just get drunk and fuck 'em all.
Crap. *I* was going to suggest getting drunk. :0
So, instead I'll say let go of the practical side of whatever is bothering you. Get your ego out of the way and let your mind become attuned to a more subtle, spiritual view. Look for the principles behind whatever seems chaotic right now. Take some time out. Write in your journal. Sit on a mountaintop. Work with your feelings until you become reflective like the smooth calm still waters of that pool we found.
Malibu
Weird timing, because I just had a dream about you last night and almost sent you an email about it. So, since *I* trust synchronicity, I think you better listen to my advice before all others! :)
And from my dream, in which you were MISERABLE, I wanted to tell you to make sure you assess whether you want to remain in a situation that just doesn't bode well.
The overall feeling of my dream was that you were heading right for a situation in which some form of manipulation or exploitation was going to repeat itself. And I can tell you this: You didn't like it the first time, when you discovered the true nature of what you were dealing with. You were used, treated carelessly or heedlessly taken advantage of.
So, sweetie, why are you sticking around for more? Open your eyes and realize nothing so far has reversed the trend.
Make sure you reevaluate your choice to be in a situation dominated by an imbalance of power, with you on the bottom.
:(
I'm getting all upset about it now because I tried to tell you all this last night in my dream and you wouldn't listen.
Write me and tell me the "unstated dilema" is really something like what color to paint the living room.
Bria
If you find yourself getting loud, you may be off-track, so give the other person a chance to talk. Don't let your ideas get in the way of listening now.
Fuck it and protect yourself while whatever storm is raging. Let everything blow over first. I would advise that you lay low for a while, don't make any moves and keep out of sight until the drama and trauma play themselves out.
Remember that even an innocent remark can be misinterpreted. Trust someone else's thinking if you're unsure of your own.
If you're arguing about something, make sure that you have the facts to back you up (LOL, wish someone would give that advice to me when I need it; hope it helps you!).
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