You and Your Own Shadows.

How often does a part of you want to believe the universe is conspiring against you -- everyone gets what they want and need but you. Your rational mind may tell you that such a thing is not so, but that matters not during periods when emotions and feelings rule.

When you sit there, and it feels as if there is an invisible barrier between you and the happiness you imagine that everyone else is enjoying, how often do you ask yourself who built this wall, you or them?

It may be that the person on the other side would be happy to include you if you could just imagine yourself being included.

It is oh so simple darling: Try to see the situation from the other side.

You won't have given up anything but your isolation.

Like a shadow boxer, you are in reaction to your own projections.

Why is it only at night, my dear, that your concept of the unknown factors in potential relationships frightens you? At night you seem to forget that this is a paradox, because what is truly unknown couldn't possibly resemble what your ego can project, either optimistically or pessimistically. It would totally confound your categories and definitions.

As you know, when you get stuck on what you think you have to worry about, the truth of the situation goes unnoticed. Refrain from obsessing on negative assumptions, doubts and fears and take a clear look at what is actually happening and what you are feeling.

Feel it fully, so it can pass.

If you are looking for a way to judge the quality of the decisions you are making in living your life, darlings, it's as easy as, well, looking at the quality of the life you are living.