Temperance.
I know there comes a time when the focus need be on self-healing in my relationships. Or, at least, I "know" that this is how I perceive myself right now.
But isn't the question always if one is *ready* to take responsibility for 'getting well', no matter what it takes? And the quest for health could be on a physical, emotional or mental level, or it may, as uncomfortable as it is to admit, have to do with paying off "karmic dues."
In any case, the obvious work is to clear up past dysfunction and address entangled emotions in my relationships. I believe that the the process will purge the toxic waste of unfinished business with my partners that actually disables me. When I am ready, I will mix my powerful medicine.
The question is, is the right time to start healing myself? And if I answer that no, how do I trust whether my answer is based on intuition or on fear. Or inertia.
Advise me anonymously and, once again, I will allow for synchronicity to help when I need it.
But isn't the question always if one is *ready* to take responsibility for 'getting well', no matter what it takes? And the quest for health could be on a physical, emotional or mental level, or it may, as uncomfortable as it is to admit, have to do with paying off "karmic dues."
In any case, the obvious work is to clear up past dysfunction and address entangled emotions in my relationships. I believe that the the process will purge the toxic waste of unfinished business with my partners that actually disables me. When I am ready, I will mix my powerful medicine.
The question is, is the right time to start healing myself? And if I answer that no, how do I trust whether my answer is based on intuition or on fear. Or inertia.
Advise me anonymously and, once again, I will allow for synchronicity to help when I need it.
posted by Ladarna Daorsa at 4/30/2006
15 Comments:
Commit to memory an understanding of how confidence and optimism are for those times when you lose courage.
This is a good time to ask the person you are involved with to support you, and then trust that you will get what you need.
I advise you to share what's going on with you. This may mean letting someone know where you need a little extra help or understanding. Opening your heart will encourage your lover, or would-be lover, to support your vision through their talent and imagination.
Think of this opportunity as a kind of brainstorming session, where working together makes quick work of a big job. There is someone who would like to help you. Put yourself in their care, if you can, and your trust will be rewarded
It might be healthier, little one, to disentangle yourself from a conflicted relationship and start fresh. So, *I* would advise you to remember the distinct line where others end and you begin. You are hardly a one who needs to be told to become more independent, but maybe right now you need to separate yourself from people and forces that are inharmonious with your true nature.
Painful as this might sound, this could be a time to cut your losses. Find different situations where the way you see things is compatible to those around you.
You deserve to be affirmed for your positive insights and contributions. Before your own attitude freezes in the form of a negative affirmation, you may want to consider going forward alone or choosing more supportive company.
And there is always the beach, which misses you.
Remember that despite your desire to undertand everything, there is no blueprint for what is going on in the head of the person you love. Brace yourself for this, because my advice is to place your trust in forces other than logic right now. because maybe the *other* person's reason is being eclipsed by deep feelings that may have been hidden? I understand your frustration with not being sure about things, but just trust the flow and your own higher power. Don't take what's happening too personally. It may not be you that needs healing, it may be them.
I agree with Malibu. And whatever 'healing' you think you need might be a case of just cutting your losses. Maybe this "healing" you want should just be you recognizing how much time and energy you may have sacrificed to a way of being that is no longer appropriate for you. Make it an opportunity to "heal" just by shedding whatever heavy burden has been weighing you down.
::smiling::
It is interesting this morning to read your anonymous advice (some of the tones of which I recognize, some of them I do not) and knowing you know absolutely nothing about what I am asking about. It's like my Game of flipping random books open to random pages and looking for my answers there. But more personal.
I am taking your advice seriously, even without your knowing any of the circumstance of my needing it, so don't stop.
Oh yay I like when you post the anonymous advice posts! I always need the advice that comes out them! In answer to you, I always just like to use your horoscope:
"Your emotions will be in the extremes right now, so don't read too much into them until you get more data. It could be that you really are furious or deeply crushed out, but give it a few days, just to be sure."
Crap, I needed to read that earlier. Particularly wrt the furious.
I'm also going with moving on. It is my guess that *you* are not toxic, but that someone else is. Cut them loose.
Remember that your own rationalizations can mislead you even more.
Thanks sweetie. The above is not so much my problem. I usually spend far too much time checking with other people "are my own rationalizations misleading me about this?" :)
I know you do! And I've tried your method of doing that! And everyone just thought I was crazy! And then I had to rationalize *that* away!
And everyone just thought I was crazy!
Pfft to that. The important thing, always, is whether or not your found your own answer.
Besides, I would always rather have everyont *think* I am crazy than actually *be* crazy. ;)
*falls off chair laughing*
You two crack me up.
Besides, I would always rather have everyont *think* I am crazy than actually *be* crazy.
And, as always little one, your logic is impeccable.
And, as always little one, your logic is impeccable.
But of course! And it's not easy you know. Such steadfast clarity of focus and purpose takes discipline. And thick skin. ;)
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